Grrrr!
This is our first party, and we really wanted it to go well. We're decorating the hell out of the place, and Dh is thrilled that he gets to use some of his scary props since we generally don't do scary stuff outside for the TOTs.
We invited a reasonable amount of people and set the start time for 8 pm. Most of our friends don't have small children or any at all, but we did mention that it was an adults party, and there would be drinking and such.
One friend of my DH's that we don't really socialize with at all popped up recently, and DH decided to invite him, even tho they don't hang out together at all anymore. I warned him that friend was the type that thinks it's fine to drag his two small children everywhere, no matter what the time or the venue, so to expect him to ask to bring the kids.
I don't dislike children, but seriously, 4-5 year olds don't need to be out until 1 am or later (they live over an hour away, so factor in driving time!) or go everywhere their parents go! If they were babies, I could see it, as most of them can sleep anywhere, but we're talking one kindergardener and one 4 year old.
So call me Madam Frankie, cause I was right. Friend emailed back that him and his wife are coming, and was it okay to bring the kiddos.
DH told him that the party was not going to be kid-friendly, (scary/gory stuff and no other kids) and that we would love to have friend and wife, but would understand if they couldn't make it without the kids.
If/when Dh and I decide to have children, then we may have a kid-friendly party, but we don't and we're not. If they can't come without the kids, that's too bad, but I shouldn't have to adjust or scale back just because someone wants to bring their kids. Nothing wrong with kids, just not the venue Dh and I were going for - and yet I feel a tiny bit guilty for discouraging the bringing of children.
Anybody else (that actually got through this long-winded vent) have to deal with this?
